MJ1209 – SOS - Asking for help?
I learned recently that “I can only help to the level that I know how to ask for the same help in the first place.”
This seems simple enough but it is at the same time hard to come to term with the real meaning of these words. It was planted in my head for more than a month ago, I just can’t seems to get it clearly, although it is getting clearer for as many time that I give a though to it.
I guess the most difficult thing to come to term with these words is the fact that those people who love to help very rarely ask for help themselves – the “Ms I KNOW It All” or the “Mr I am too Tough to ask for Help”.
I was the “Know It All” and at times still too “Tough” to ask for help.
Many a time, I am the Superman that knows how to take care of everything all by myself. Not until the last minutes or when my system really failed me entirely that I will consider “surrender”.
That’s right, asking for help is like flying the white flag and conceding defeat. Ever wonder why one would think like that; it amaze me what DNA has been planted in me to behave like that – the green Kryptonite, I suppose. Someone must have been telling me that I am the real Superman in the past; and not that hunk exhibiting his red underpants!
The high success rate of my many offers to help perhaps also contributed to my overrated confidence in this regard. I was helplessly intoxicated on the excitement to pull it off in the last minute having saying yes to every requests especially those that are clearly beyond me. The question is what about those that you cannot pull it off and also the need to leave it to the last minute – those extra runs of adrenalin and generous helping of midnight oil are certainly eating in to the other area of my balance, not mentioning the pressure of conscience in recognising the serious consequence if I cannot keep a promise of a solution!
I am nothing short of not knowing where my comfort zone is and tricked by my mind that I am always out of my box. I recognise only too well now that I am still very much in my own box as I was only comparing my box with others not realising that I in fact have a bigger box than most.
Recently, I learn to be truthful to the best that I can and that is very powerful. Acknowledging your short comings drive you to do it better or draw your obvious strengths to overcome your short comings.
Asking for help is only therefore a way of the warrior. Don’t you think that it is the most difficult for a fighter to acknowledge his own weaknesses? Reach out to even your enemy for help, that’s the highest level of help you can ask for and when you do that, you are truly unstoppable!
The fact remains that wisdom are most readily available, if only you ask! Second to that are both help and support, and it comes from every possible sources. Do you know how to ask? And do you know when and where to ask?
You have the answers in you.
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